“There’s good anger and bad anger. If you’re driving and a traffic officer finds some non-existent fault with your driving skills or your car, then goes ahead to ask for bribe so he can let you off the hook without getting the concerned authorities involved, if you didn’t get angry there would clearly be something wrong with you. Or if you saw injustice being perpetrated and didn’t get angry, then there would definitely be something so wrong with you.” These were my priest’s sentiments during mass a couple of Sundays ago, and I couldn’t agree more with him.
For starters, life is not perfect, and for that simple reason, it would be practically impossible to always be happy. Nonetheless, anger becomes a sin or just frowned upon when in anger, someone goes and does something so appalling. For instance, a man may find his wife in bed with another man. To any reasonable person, the husband –in such a situation- has all the right to get angry.
However, even in that moment of extreme anger, he should take some time to calm down, so he doesn’t do something that might have the law qualify his right to freedom; when he’s apprehended and subsequently incarcerated for doing something atrocious in the heat of passion, say killing the wife or the other guy.
In reality, there are many people who have found themselves in such undesirable circumstances. I always wonder; when the anger has subsided and someone realizes they did something so dreadful, do they wish they could turn back the hands of time, so they could do things differently? Personally, I know there are many times I’ve done things in anger, which I’ve regretted a lot.
There are a few bible phrases on anger, which I always keep referring to: for instance, Ephesians 4: 26 – “If you become angry, do not let your anger lead you into sin, and do not stay angry all day”. This, in my understanding, means one can get angry but they shouldn’t go to bed with the anger in their hearts.