Know your worth

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How much are you worth?

I’m always wondering why some people let others treat them like trash. The unfair treatment is mostly attributed to one’s financial status, i.e. if one is considered poor they could be treated unfairly by those who are wealthy. It could also be due to one’s role e.g. in a company; some sub-ordinates really get their fair share of ill-treatment from their conceited honchos. It could also be due to one’s race, gender, sexual orientation…I could just think of so many reasons why some people get undermined.

But question is, is it right? Is it okay to treat someone like a lesser human being because of such inadmissible excuses? In my opinion, it is not. I know some people feel we can’t all be equal; nonetheless, those who wield power/authority shouldn’t oppress those they feel are below them. I empathize an awful lot with people who get treated badly at work, yet can’t quit because they need the money. They know they deserve to be treated better; still they take it all stoically. No one should be maltreated, especially if they didn’t do anything to warrant such torment. Like with one’s race; if one isn’t proud of who/what are, they can change their nationality, but if they are Asian, African, white etc. they will still remain as such. Some things just can’t be changed.

Relationships also come with their own baggage; some partners could be so abusive. There are those who will break their mates down, pointing out their flaws blatantly, in an attempt to shatter their self-confidence. Subsequently, the victim ends up despising themselves, under the illusion that they are repulsive and no one else, but their abusive mate could really love them. So, no matter how oppressed they feel, they never get the courage to walk out of the relationship.

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One thing I would love to point out is that each individual is worth so much, and therefore deserves to be treated better. It may be hard for someone in a difficult situation to believe this, but this is the absolute truth. For instance, a recovering drug addict might feel they deserve to be ill-treated by other people because they got themselves into that mess in the first place; nonetheless, that shouldn’t be the case. Truth is we all make mistakes; however, one’s past faults, especially when they are trying to right their wrongs, shouldn’t be used against them.

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So, how much are you worth? (One need not attach a price tag to it). Point is, one should know their worth. Many settle for less, failing to realize they should be treated better, because they don’t know/believe they could be worth much. Colour, race, financial status, gender…etc. shouldn’t be used as an excuse to be treated unfairly.

 

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24 thoughts on “Know your worth

  1. Anna Eastland

    This is a beautiful and important concept: the intrinsic worth of every single person of every background and ability. Treating every person with respect is a radical yes to the miracle that each life is.
    I used to volunteer in the poorest part of town with women who worked the streets. We would bring them a moment of warmth and respect..hugs, some candy, encouragement to see their value and the possibility of a new life if they wanted it, a few heartfelt prayers together. They were amazing, broken, beautiful. And even in their poverty, they knew how to share and take care of each other. It was an honour to share in their journey, their struggle to find their way in life.
    Life is messy, but it’s a lot better when we can treat each other with respect and love, no matter what.
    Thanks for this great post! And for your follow…all the best with your writing!

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    1. alygeorges Post author

      It’s true Anna, life is messy, but it’s a lot better when we can treat each other with respect and love, no matter one’s race, religion, financial/social status, gender…etc.
      Thank you for reading, and for sharing your thoughts. 🙂

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  2. threekidsandi

    Sometimes people grow up in a system that teaches them that they do not have worth. Sometimes your price tag is visible in your dowry. Sometimes in the fact that there is no room for you in the school. Sometimes you can see your price tag reflected in the faces of those loved ones who refuse to value you. Sometimes what is inside of you is stunted, by your very culture.

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    1. alygeorges Post author

      I understand that. Sometimes the places we grow up in/ live make us feel like we’re not worth much. For instance, there are communities where girls undergo female genital mutilation as a right of passage. If a girl refuses to go through with it, she is never valued as a woman, so in such a case, one feels like they are not worth much.
      In such cases, I feel one should swim against the current; believe that they are worth much. It’s difficult, but I feel each individual is worth so much. Sometimes it’s difficult to convince someone who’s life is basically defined by strict cultures, that they are so valuable but if everyone believed it, then they would know when to break free from demeaning traditions.

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  3. threekidsandi

    These girls are not given choices in the matter, in the vast majority of cases, and in the rest, the children are under the age of consent. I just have to point that out. Refusing is a luxury in such places.

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    1. alygeorges Post author

      For the girls I mentioned, refusing isn’t a luxury either. They sacrifice a lot. Most of them run away from home, because if they stayed they would have to undergo the rite. But I do understand what you’re saying. In some cases underage girls are forced to marry old men, and there isn’t much they can do to stop it.
      It’s true what you say; in most cases one doesn’t get the option to refuse. People need to be empowered somehow. Because even if one can’t find a way out of existing traditions, if they know they are worth much, they will find the strength inside of them to know when to break free, eventually.

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      1. threekidsandi

        That’s actually really interesting. The women I knew who have undergone FGM were never told it was coming. All the girls in the village were told they were attending a party and then they locked the door behind them. I don’t think you should put the burden of the fight on the victims. It should come from outside, with education and changing the opinions of their elders, as it has been happening in pockets of Northern Iraq.

      2. alygeorges Post author

        I agree with you; the burden shouldn’t be loaded on the victims because if one finds themselves in a situation they don’t like it means they were defenseless. Educating the elders would be a good place to start.
        Do you know why I put so much emphasis on individual empowerment? and for the victims precisely? Sometimes I feel it’s difficult trying to convince elders to ditch traditions they have been practicing religiously for ages; practices that have been passed down from generations.
        The other day on the news I was listening to this story about a young girl who bled to death after undergoing the cut. Instead of taking it as a reason to ditch the practice, one of the elder women from the community said that maybe there was bad blood between the deceased girl’s family and the ancestors.
        Based on this, I feel it might be difficult trying to get through to elders, but on the other hand, if the girls/victims are empowered through education and constant motivation, they will liberate themselves and those who come after them. It’s not easy I know, but I believe it’s possible.

  4. threekidsandi

    It is possible, but the problem is that if you walk into such a community and preach against FGM to the children, the elders will throw you out on your rear, for corrupting them. Access to girls is especially difficult in ¨honor¨ societies.
    The way I think it has been successful is when it is done by degrees, gaining trust, giving sound advice, and educating the public as a whole. The best success is from within, when those members of the community with education share it with the rest.
    Many girls are kept out of school after a certain age, to prepare for marriage or to keep them innocent (uneducated). They are just hard to reach, where they are marginalized.
    My ex did not want my daughter to attend school, ever, for instance.

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    1. alygeorges Post author

      I agree with you completely. Educated members of the community should enlighten the others, because then there won’t be so much skepticism; some people seeing malice in the process and all… I simply don’t agree with the idea of denying someone an education so they can remain forever in the dark. Knowledge is the greatest weapon one can have, so when an innocent girl is denied that, she’s left vulnerable. I’m really sorry you had a partner who thought keeping your daughter from school would be a good idea. You said he was your ex? I’m so glad he is now a part of your past.

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      1. threekidsandi

        I think the premise is to keep girls in the dark as children so that they never have a weapon at all. Many cultures prefer that their girls be vulnerable, for a variety of reasons, and none of them worth the resulting misogyny.
        I am indeed very lucky that my ex is an ex. The children are much better off.

      2. alygeorges Post author

        The ground should be leveled for all. If the girls are being made to undergo such traumatizing practices, the least those involved could do for them is at least let them get an education. They violate so many of these girls’ rights.
        I’m so happy for you. You and your children deserve better. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I found your contribution very insightful. 🙂

  5. jannatwrites

    It’s true we should all treat others, and be treated, with respect. Sometimes it seems like the inequities in this often go undetected, with treatment growing worse so gradually it isn’t noticed until years down the road. I do feel for those who endure difficult work conditions because they can’t financially afford to speak out and demand respect.

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    1. alygeorges Post author

      Hi, thank you so much for stopping by and for sharing your thoughts on the matter. I really appreciate it. I’m also very sorry for the delayed reply.

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